Women Shaming Women - Why It Needs to Stop.
I was recently subject to hateful comments online by another woman and it isn't
the first time its happened. Online shaming of women happens every day,
probably every minute of the day. Scrolling through your 'newsfeed' I am sure
you have all seen hateful or negative comments from one woman to another.
I am not sure why it happens, probably for a number of reasons but
that is beyond the point. Women shaming other women needs to stop. The world is
a nasty place even without the negative comments that women post or say about
one another.
When I fell pregnant at 15 years old I experienced both online and
in person hate. I had comments such as 'You're never going to finish year 10',
'Your baby should be aborted' and 'You've ruined your life.' Comments like
these can really have an impact on someone as I know first-hand. Just for the
record, I did finish year 10, I kept my baby and I did not ruin my life. Not
that I need to justify myself to anyone. I am a happily married mother of two
beautiful children, passionate about finishing my degree and starting a career
in law. If anyone does not like or support that they can unfollow, unsubscribe
or choose to not be around me.
I do not understand why women waste their time writing or saying
hateful comments that is only going to have a negative impact on someone. Why
can't we have a community of women who support each other and not call each
other 'pathetic'. Support women in their time of need, say nice comments, smile
at someone. Is it that hard to be positive? I am not saying this is all women
either - most women are positive and supportive of each other. I know this too
because I have beautiful women who constantly support me in my real life and
online. But there are some nasty people out there who wish to make others feel
bad because they are not happy with themselves or their lives. I would
encourage these women to do something about it and improve their lives and
happiness. Don't take it out on others who are only trying their best to
succeed. You never know what impact a nasty comment will have on someone. You
don't know what is going on in their lives, maybe that person is really
struggling already and you can choose to make that worse or better.
I am not perfect and no human being is so, I'm not implying that I
have never said anything mean or nasty or that I don't judge other women or
people from time to time. We all do because we have different opinions or
biases. But I would never go out of my way to say something mean to another woman
online or offline.
When I did fall pregnant I had to make a choice about what I want
to do with all these hateful comments, I chose to use them as part of my
determination. I used the comments such as 'You're never going to finish year
10' as determination to finish year 10 and prove to myself that you can be a
teenage mother and still 'make' something of your life or achieve your goals.
So, the comments that I have recently received online will be used as the same
thing, I am choosing to use these as determination for myself to accomplish my goals. Using
these comments as determination still does not make them okay to say to someone
else and I know that hateful comments are still going to continue regardless of
how much progress women or people make.
So, I want to challenge women to have a positive impact on other
people and support other women. Use the online community to support women
achieve their dreams and goals, just don't tear them down.
There are various type of people in the world. Here some women are being happy to slandering others. But i think the percentage of this type of women is not too much. But there online activities impact other life too much. My opinion to avoid this type of women.
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